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21 Things Nobody Tells You About Depression
21 Things Nobody Tells You About Depression
With the recent and apparent suicide of beloved actor Robin Williams, it seems depression is making headlines—as it should have been and should be.
Mental illness effects a large percentage of the world's population. It is high time that the stigma around people who suffer from these diseases—yes, dis-eases, just like diabetes and cancer, just as severe—be done away with so that our fellow humans can get the proper care and respect they deserve, just like a patient with any other debilitating sickness. Check out some lesser known facts about depression and pass it on, be a part of the solution, not the problem. Knowledge is power:
1. Most of the things people will say to help you are profoundly and dangerously unhelpful.
Thanks to a plethora of misinformation about what depression actually is, people often seem to think that saying things like “just be happier,” “don’t be depressed,” and “just try harder” are legitimate pieces of advice. They are not.
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2. It physically hurts.
In the human body’s least amusing attempt at metaphor, many depressed people report physical symptoms like muscle ache, joint pain, and stabbing sensations in the chest. If you are depressed and feeling pain, check with your doctor to discuss possible causes.
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3. Asking for help feels counterintuitive.
One of the many lies depression will tell you is that nobody cares about you, so you won’t want to “bother” people by reaching out to them. Fight this lie. Wrestle it to the ground. Punch it in the face. Somebody will listen to you.
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4. Your relationship with food changes to “it’s complicated.”
Whatever moderation there is between “forgetting to eat for a day” and “eating all of the things” just isn’t on the menu anymore. Poor eating habits can make depression worse, though, so seek medical help if your diet becomes worrisome for you.
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5. Some “friends” might ditch you (and that is OK).
Some of your so-called friends won’t know how to be around you and will vanish in the haze. Let them go and keep doing you. It’s the people who stay that will make a difference.
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6. You feel like you are absolutely losing your mind.
Depression is a shape-shifting mental disorder; it co-manifests with panic attacks, compulsive thoughts and habits, social phobia, and any number of other issues. Remember that you are not “crazy.” You are sick and you can get better.
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7. Everything will start to annoy you. Even you will start to annoy you.
Irritability is a symptom of depression that doesn’t get enough attention. Feeling grumpy is just a part of the process, and you shouldn’t be made to feel bad about it.
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8. Everyday tasks will feel overwhelming.
Something as simple as making a bowl of cereal suddenly has too many steps and now you’re frustrated with yourself and oh dear, don’t cry…
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9. It’s nearly impossible to tell when it’s just your “depression talking.”
Trying to tell your healthy, rational thoughts apart from the stuff that wouldn’t cross your mind if you weren’t depressed is like scooping only the pee out of a swimming pool, but being able to tell that difference is an important step on the road to recovery.
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10. Depression will wreak havoc on your sleep schedule.
You can’t sleep when you want to, but when you actually have somewhere to be you get knocked out with a completely unplanned, five-hour nap.
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11. Depression can also mean not feeling anything at all.
If you’re depressed it’s assumed that you’re sad, but depression can also make you feel numb and/or emotionally exhausted. No matter what other people say, that’s still depression; if you feel emotionally numb or blank you should report it to your doctor or therapist.
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12. It’s incredibly boring.
Imagine that you can only watch one thing on Netflix, and it’s an 80-season show with 24-hour episodes. Imagine that you have no interest in this show or its characters or its plot. When you are depressed, your life might feel like that TV show. Try to distract yourself for brief periods of time with anything that will hold your attention and stave off the boredom, however temporary the distraction is.
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13. You’ll feel guilty.
What’s worse than being depressed? Feeling like you’re a selfish, ungrateful failure for having a disorder you can’t control. This is a common depressive thought, and is not true. Cognitive behavioral therapy can help you identify depressive thoughts and emotions (like guilt) and can give you tools to work through these feelings.
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14. Probably because people will tell you things that make you feel judged.
Yes, people are starving. Yes, there are people with “real problems.” That doesn’t make you any less sick.
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15. Your dreams get weird.
Some studies say that as people move through the stages of their depression, the content and quality of their dreams fluctuate.
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16. Mirrors become your worst enemy.
Low self-esteem is a symptom of depression, so your mirror can remind you of how much you dislike the way you look or who you are. Sometimes it’s best to just cover them up for a few days.
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17. Depression will seem like a “logical” state to be in.
Some studies show that depressed people have an unusually realistic worldview, so you might rationalize your depressive thinking (“I am a bad person”) as an incontrovertible fact. This is not true, and therapy can help you understand how depression flaws your logic.
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18. So you will earnestly argue with people over how terrible you are.
“I think you’re awesome.” “NO YOU DON’T, I’M CLEARLY THE WORST PERSON EVER GO AWAY.”
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19. Trying to reenter society after being depressed for a long time is very awkward.
It might be a while before you feel good around people again, so it’s OK to take your time and slowly reintroduce yourself into social situations.
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20. You won’t be able to think clearly about your future.
Not only does this nuke your capacity for hope, it also renders meaningless the idea that at some point things will get better. If you feel like this, please take steps to seek medical help or talk to a trusted friend or counselor.
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21. Depression will make you feel that you are alone. You are not alone.
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Monday, 13 July 2015
Syria: Undercover network dedicated to saving Yazidi women and children from ISIS
Syria: Undercover network
dedicated to saving Yazidi
women and children
from ISIS
The Great IScape
Resistance fighters rescue women raped,
beaten and caged by jihadi thugs
WEARY women are helped to safety by armed rescuers as they flee IS in a feat to rival the Great Escape.
They are among 34 mums and daughters who were kept as slaves by jihadi soldiers for eight months.
The victims, the eldest 60, suffered appalling sexual and physical violence.
Their daring exit, which saw them trudge barefoot across mountains for two days with little food or water, was made possible by an underground network of brave resistance fighters.
Guides based inside IS risk their own lives to free women and children from the terror group’s strongholds in Syria.
They lead them to the border, where they are then smuggled into Iraq by lawyer Khaleel Al Dakhi, who co-ordinates the dangerous rescue missions.
Their amazing work has been revealed for the first time by new Channel 4 documentary, Escape From Isis.
Khaleel is from the Yazidi community of the Sinjar Mountains in northern Iraq, which last August was the target of a devastating IS attack.
Hundreds were killed and thousands of women and young girls captured.
The Islamic extremists consider the Yazidi minority to be infidels.
Yazidi women are bought and sold as slaves among twisted IS fighters, with girls as young as nine subjected to torture and rape.
It is these victims that Khaleel and his activist cell do their utmost to rescue.
Khaleel, who has a five-year-old girl, says: “I can’t imagine not seeing my daughter — to talk to her, to hug her.
“Now hundreds of children like mine have been taken, we have to keep going.”
He adds: “No one has said they will rescue our people. No government. Imagine if one of your people was captured. You’d do everything you could to save them.”
The operation began after some girls managed to escape the barbaric regime on their own.
Khaleel started gathering their testimonies in the hope of using them as evidence in a future war crimes trial.
Then he realised that the escapees had valuable information that could help others to flee.
He started collating a map of IS positions and Yazidi prisons. Then he developed contacts within IS who were prepared to lead captured women to freedom.
His heroic guides range from political agitators who will do anything to undermine the regime, to penniless shepherds who will help in exchange for a few hundred dollars in expenses.
Most of them are Sunni Arabs — the people IS claims to represent.
The girls they have successfully rescued tell harrowing stories of the abuse they endured.
Amal, 18, was held by an IS commander and his six bodyguards, all of whom would rape her daily.
She reveals: “I’m still in pain. I can’t sleep. I wake up at 3am smelling them.”
Life is little better for the four million women in IS with its ruthless oppression and medieval controls. All females are forbidden to go outside without a close male relative.
When they do, they must wear gowns to hide their body shape, gloves to cover their hands and three black veils to hide their face.
Even a small infringement of the code results in brutal punishment.
A Syrian former teacher who fell foul of the regime’s enforcers said: “‘They said my eyes were visible through my veil. I was tortured. They lashed me.
“Now some of them punish women by biting. They give you the option between getting bitten or lashed.”
She added: “We have no freedom. We cannot go out on the balcony or look through the window. They will arrest a woman if she wears perfume or raises her voice. A woman’s voice cannot be heard.”
A savage female police brigade, known as Al-Khansa, persecutes fellow women.
As many as 60 of these morality fanatics are British.
One former enforcer, Umm Abaid, a Syrian woman who has since fled IS, admitted: “Anyone who broke the rules, we would lash. Then we would take her male guardian, her brother, father or husband, and lash him too.”
Women have even been buried alive for dress code infringements.
Grisly public executions are also commonplace. After taking over the Iraqi city of Raqqa, IS stoned a woman to death for adultery.
Despite this barbarism, there are still hundreds of educated Western women, including Brits, who are voluntarily making the journey to IS to join the jihadists.
The documentary’s director Edward Watts, said: “If this film does anything, I hope it makes those girls think twice about what they are doing.”
The crew risked their own lives to record the footage while activists within IS filmed themselves to show everyday life, including being stopped at a checkpoint for ID.
Edward added: “When we were up on the frontline it was nerve-racking. You hear stories from the soldiers stationed there.
“IS attack them every night at 3am. They come at them in great numbers with mortars, suicide bombs and rocket launchers.
“The way the soldiers describe them, it is as if IS is some sort of zombie army you just can’t stop.”
Meanwhile a twisted redhead dubbed the “Ginger Jihadi” has issued a threat of a direct IS attack on the UK.
Aussie Abdullah Elmir, 18, revealed he is now married to runaway East London schoolgirl Amira Abase, 16, in Syria.
He said: “Brothers I know are itching to do an attack. This is a direct threat.”
Disobey iron rule and pay the price
BARBARIC punishment is dished out to women in IS unless they observe strict rules at all times.
They have to wear two gowns to hide their shape, gloves and three veils so the face is never visible.
If a body part is glimpsed in public, punishment will be inflicted on it.
One woman had 100 lashes on her big toe.
The penalty for a patterned garment is a lashing or biting.
Women cannot be heard speaking, sit on a chair, wear perfume, smoke or leave the house unless with a male relative.
They should only go out in exceptional circumstances — to commit jihad when no men are available, or for religious study.
Clothes shops and beauty parlours are the work of the devil.
Girls are married from nine. Adulterers get stoned to death.
IS has declared the Yazidis, an ancient religious minority, to be infidels.
They have slaughtered 5,000 Yazidis and abducted up to 7,000 women and children for sex.
There are 700,000 Yazidis worldwide, mainly in northern Iraq, with small communities in Armenia, Georgia and Syria.
They believe in one god but also seven angels who rule the world on his behalf. The Peacock Angel is singled out for reverence.
But Christians and Muslims equate him with Satan.
This is why Yazidis have been persecuted for centuries and why they are hated by hardline Islamists.
Wednesday, 1 July 2015
Pregnant 17-year old Yazidi rape-slave who escaped Isis is rejected by her own community
This poor girl needs help with an abortion asaps. Otherwise both the mother and child will endure be a lifetime of an open wound and resentment against a child that reminds her of her captor every time she looks at it.
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‘The virgins were taken to a room with 40 men. They lined us up and pointed who they wanted': Yazidi girl, 17, made pregnant by ISIS fighter reveals her nine-month ordeal as a jihadi sex slave
- Teenager revealed how she was sold to Chechen fighter with her sister, 10
- Made to recite Koran verses while fighter and his ‘bodyguards’ raped them
- When teen tried to fight back, she was scaled with boiling water by rapists
- Girl finally escaped when her captor was killed by the Kurdish in April
A Yazidi teenager has told how she and her little sister were raped daily by depraved jihadists after they were sold into slavery at an auction of virgins – as she revealed she is now pregnant with the vile extremist’s baby.
The girl, who is just 17, revealed how every day of her nine-month ordeal was ‘like choosing between death and death’ as she was faced with beatings and sexual assaults by the ISIS militant and his team of ‘bodyguards’.
The teenager told how she was gang-raped, whipped and even scalded on the thigh with boiling hot water if she didn’t keep with her ISIS rapist’s depraved sexual demands.
The girl recalled how she was forced to recite passages from the Koran while her ‘owner’, calling himself Al-Russiyah, and his ‘bodyguards’ molested her.
Now, three months pregnant with Al-Russiyah’s baby, the girl says she gets flashbacks and nightmares about what he did to her.
‘It was like choosing between death and death… It was terrible,’ she said.
‘He beat me and would be with at least one other man every time he had sex with me.’
The teenager was kidnapped last August, after ISIS fighters overran the town of Shingal, also known as Sinjar, in an onslaught which sent thousands of Yazidis who had been living on the Nineveh Plain running for the mountains to escape the extremists.
The teenager was handcuffed and held in a hotel by gun-toting ISIS fighters, with a number of other scantily dressed women and young girls in Mosul, Iraq.
She was then moved to Islamic State’s adopted capital of Raqqa, Syria, where she and dozens of other women and girls were underwent an intrusive examination to confirm that they were virgins.
IS ‘were looking for women and they took them for themselves’.
‘The virgins were taken to a room with 40 men,’ she recalled.
‘They lined us up and pointed who they wanted… I thought I might be lucky: I was not as beautiful as the others.’
The girl was bought by Al-Russiyah, originally from Chechnya, who purchased her, her 10-year-old sister and two other girls in 10 minutes.
But it was not only the prospect of what the horrors they would face once they were taken away from the auction house which left the girls distraught.
‘The day me and my sister were sold was the last day I saw my mother. I will never forget when she started crying and pulling her hair when they took us,’ she said.
They forced me to say things from the Koran during the time they did their actions, and if I didn’t they whipped me.
Girl, 17, who was kept as a sex slave
Once at their new ‘home’, an abhorrent daily routine from which they could not escape began.
Each morning, Al-Russiyah would strip the girls naked, then smell them and decide who he wanted to have sex with that day, she said.
After the he had made his choice, his bodyguards would select one of the remaining girls for themselves.
But the bodyguards were so rough with her that the teenager felt relief at being picked by her captor, who would ‘beat her less than the other men’.
It was hopeless to resist: on the one occasion she did, one of Al-Russiyah’s men poured boiling water on her leg.
‘They forced me to say things from the Koran during the time they did their actions, and if I didn’t they whipped me,’ she said.
‘I didn’t feel anything. I just felt numb. I wanted it to be over. I wanted to kill myself.
‘We were forced to cook, clean and do anything that they told us. We had to obey their orders. Sometimes we had to dance and sing for them.’
But then finally, after nine months of torture which no one should have to endure, a chance to escape arose.
In April, Al-Russiyah was killed, together with his bodyguards, by Peshmerga forces near Sinjar, northern Iraq – and the girls were finally able to flee.
She said: ‘[Al-Russiyah] and his bodyguards were wounded when they fought against Kurdish soldiers. He died immediately and the guards also.
‘That was when we fled.’
Some of the girls ran back to ISIS because they were so afraid. One girl who tried to escape had her legs cut off by the militants, it is claimed.
The girl says life is now difficult for her because the Yazidi community is very patriarchal – and those who have fled ISIS are considered ‘tainted’ – even though their highest cleric has urged families to accept them.
Her uncle has threatened to kill her if she had been sexually abused by Islamic State fighters, and she is now preparing to terminate her pregnancy.
Delal Sindy, a 23-year-old aid worker from Sweden, has helped tell the 17-year-old Yazidi girl’s story.
Ms Sindy, who has been in Kurdistan since October last year, is determined to stay and help in the face of ISIS getting stronger in the region.
‘They are growing stronger in certain areas but here they are being pushed further away by the Kurdish military. And they really need help, this is why I am staying,’ she said.
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