Tuesday 31 May 2016

10 Things About Depression That Are Actually Not True

10 Things About Depression That Are Actually Not True
Below are few of the myths that are linked with Depression. Please read them careful.
1. Myth: Depression is not a real medical illness.
Clinical depression is a serious medical condition that affects not only an individual’s mood and thoughts, but also the individual’s body. Research has shown that depression has genetic and biological causes. Individuals coping with depression have a higher level of stress hormones present in their bodies, and the brain scans of depression patients show decreased activity in some areas of the brain.
2. Myth: Even if depression is a medical illness, there’s nothing that can be done about it.
Depression is treatable, and more than 80 percent of individuals with depressive disorders improve with treatment. As new medications and treatments are discovered, the number should continue to rise.
The first step to finding effective treatment is to get a physical examination by a doctor to rule out other causes for your symptoms, such as thyroid problems. Once you’ve been diagnosed with depression, you and your doctor will decide on a course of treatment, which will include medication, psychotherapy or a combination of both.
3. Myth: Depression is no different from getting the “blues” – and this is just a normal part of life.
Equating depression with the blues is like saying that a common cold is the same as pneumonia. Everyone gets the blues or blahs from time to time, usually in reaction to disappointment or an upsetting event, or sometimes in reaction to something as simple as a rainy day. But the blues only last a day or two. Depression, on the other hand, can last a lifetime, and the illness is much more pervasive and disabling. No one commits suicide because they have the blues.
4. Myth: People who think they have depression are just feeling sorry for themselves.
Depression affects about 19 million people annually in the U.S. alone. Some of the most prominent and well-known individuals who have suffered from a depressive disorder include Alexander the Great, Napoleon Bonaparte, Abraham Lincoln, Theodore Roosevelt, Winston Churchill, George Patton, abolitionist John Brown, Robert E. Lee, Florence Nightingale, Sir Isaac Newton, Stephen Hawking, Charles Darwin, J.P. Morgan, Barbara Bush, Ludwig von Beethoven and Michelangelo. Not exactly people who just sit around feeling sorry for themselves.
5. Myth: You can will depression away. If you can’t, then you’re weak.
Depression cannot be willed away any more than heart disease or diabetes can. It’s caused by chemical changes in the body, which cannot be overcome simply by positive thinking and grim determination. Given how much stigma is still attached to mental illness, seeking help for depression is an act of courage and strength — not weakness — on your part.
6. Myth: Depression will go away by itself.
For extremely fortunate individuals, depression may go away by itself. But for the rest of us, depression can hang on for months, years or indefinitely. Depression can go away on its own, only to return in the future; once an individual has one episode of depression, they are predisposed to have more. Clinical depression is a potentially fatal disease – and suicide could be the end result of waiting for it to go away without any help.
7. Myth: Depression is a normal part of getting older.
Depression is not a normal part of aging, but seniors do generally experience more of the events that can trigger depression: loss of family and friends, ill health, isolation and financial worries. Furthermore, people over the age of 60 grew up in an era in which mental illness was not discussed, and they may feel more shame about asking for help than someone from a subsequent generation. The highest rate of suicide of any age group occurs in that of people 65 and older, with men being more vulnerable than women. It’s imperative that seniors with depression seek help.
8. Myth: Depression only affects women.
Although women report being affected by depression twice as much as men, depression certainly affects men as well. Often, clinical depression is under reported in men, particularly in cultures that discourage them from asking for help or showing any weakness. Furthermore, men have a higher rate of successful suicide attempts than women, so it is crucial that men seek help for their symptoms.
9. Myth: Depression does not affect children or teenagers — their problems are just a part of growing up.
We’d like to believe that all children experience a happy, carefree childhood, but that’s simply not the case. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, studies show that 1 in 33 children and 1 in 8 adolescents are depressed in any given year. Children are not as practiced at articulating their feelings as adults, so adults must take the initiative to look for and notice symptoms of depression in children.
10. Myth: If someone in your family suffers from depression, you will inherit it.
In the same way that you can be genetically predisposed to high blood pressure or diabetes, you can be genetically predisposed to depression. This does not mean, however, that if a family member has a history of depression, you are fated to suffer from it as well. Just be aware that your chances of having depression are higher than if you had no family history of the illness, and seek treatment if you start to develop symptoms.
By
Jagadeesh Krishnan

Saturday 14 May 2016

13 Ways to Take Care of Yourself Every Day1

13 Ways to Take Care of Yourself Every Day1

Don’t get stuck in an unhealthy daily grind. Here’s how to work “me time” into your busy schedule.

It’s 7:30 a.m. and your alarm is blaring. Squinty-eyed, you reach for your phone, fumbling to swipe that horrible noise off, sinking back into the mattress, your eyes fading to black again… until you shoot straight up, eyes wide open, realizing you’ve already pushed snooze three times. You’re late. So you bolt out from under the covers and, like a blur, get dressed and go to work.
You’re at the office (finally), and a million emails have rudely generated in your inbox, so you start shooting off responses, only to reply to the ones that come back seconds later. You only get up when nature calls and your stomach yells for food. Another blur and it’s already dark. Time to climb back under the covers…
Sleep, wake up, work. And repeat. That’s a daily grind that will have you burning out the next time your alarm goes off. There’s more to life than work. How can you make sure you’re getting a healthy dose of “me time”?

We asked the Young Entrepreneur Council, “What is one thing you can do every day to take care of yourself, before your work?” to find out.

1. Set specific time slots when you don’t work.1

Focusing on work is a great excuse for not taking care of yourself. I have set specific time slots where I won’t work and will instead spend time on my family and me. These slots are first thing in the morning (before 8 a.m.) and dinnertime (5 to 8 p.m.). Except for events I must attend, these slots are sacred times for me to spend with my family and not work. Setting this up has been life-changing.

2. Start your day off with meditation.

I start every morning with a short 5–10-minute meditation using an app called Beditations. Themeditation helps me visualize the things I’m most grateful for and allows me to minimize negativity and distractions. I find that early morning meditation increases my self-awareness and helps me put into perspective what really matters. I also tend to be much more positive, energetic and happy.

3. Work out.

I get up early most mornings and head to a free, outside workout called F3. Aside from obvious health benefits, it clears my mind and gets me in touch with the outdoors and in the company of good friends to start the day.

4. Get enough ZZZs.

The scientific benefits of sleep are innumerable. More sleep equates to more happiness, better health and improved decision-making. Not to mention that it detoxes the brain. In order to do your best work, it’s critical to consistently recharge your batteries.

5. Write a poem.

It sounds silly, random even, but this is something I’ve done every day that has dramatically reduced my stress while simultaneously opening my mind to many details in the world and opportunities that I would not have otherwise noticed. Start your day by writing a poem—even something as simple as a haiku.

6. Keep a journal.

Life is very busy. My journal is in bullet-form so I can jot down things I did, people I met, how I felt, etc. It’s been a great outlet to help me be present, remember the little moments and sort out challenges in both my personal and professional life.

7. Talk to friends and family.

Your friends and family are your biggest supporters. Even if you are having a very stressful and busy day, pick up the phone for a few minutes just to say hi to Mom or your best friend, and just talk about the good things that are happening in their lives. It will keep you grounded.

8. Wake up slowly.

It’s not unusual for me to answer 10 to 15 emails before even getting out of bed in the morning. But starting the day off like this often sets a negative tone for the day, and truthfully most issues can wait. I’m learning that I’m much happier when I take 30 to 45 minutes to wake up slowly and shower before checking email.

9. Read something fictional.

Refresh your mind by taking an afternoon break from your workflow and escaping to another world. Reading fictional stories stimulates the right side of your brain, sparking creative thought. That stimulation can make your day go a little smoother by thinking differently, solving problems in abstract ways and, most importantly, rejuvenating your soul.

10. Do yoga.

I have always been a very active person. I played water polo, swam, surfed, tried every sport out there. But in the last few years I started doing yoga a few days a week and it has changed my life. It’s the only place my phone is completely off and my mind is focused on myself only—no clients, employees or projects. It’s the easiest way to reset your mind and body in 60 minutes.

11. Listen to a podcast.

I find that one of the best practices to get fresh air and stimulate my brain is simply to take a walk and listen to a podcast with the podcast app that now comes standard on the iPhone. Do yourself a favor and listen to something non-business-related. For a little health or mindfulness, my favorites are Bulletproof Radio and Buddhist Geeks.

12. Put yourself on your schedule.2

When you put yourself on your schedule, you won’t have meetings and appointments that prevent you from taking care of yourself. I prefer to put myself as my first appointment of the day to make sure I don’t get caught up in the day and decide to skip out on important things that keep me grounded, like exercise and meditation.

13. Make time for play.

Before becoming a father, I would have given an answer like many others: workout, meditate, yoga, etc. These are all exceptional ways to nurture yourself. After becoming a father, the greatest joy I can experience is playing with my children. It’s like taking that deep refreshing breath of sea air after a hard workout, but better.
by 
k.jagadeesh 

Monday 2 May 2016

6 Ways to Raise a Son Who Will Respect Women

6 Ways to Raise a Son Who Will Respect Women

The status of a woman is different around the world. There are countries and places where men do not respect women at all. The sad thing is that a mother who knows how it feels when no one respects you raises a son who, in turn, offenses other women, including his mom.
That is why feminism is so popular these days. Feminism is not about hating men. It is about respecting every woman no matter her age, race, nationality or religion. If you have a son and want him to grow up to be a real gentleman, check out the following six ways to raise a son who will respect women.

1. Share your success with him

Your son should know that a woman has the right be as successful as a man. She has goals and enough power to reach them. You do not have to be a wealthy businesswoman to share your achievements with your son. You are already a successful mother so let your son know it as often as possible.
Talk about other successful women from different parts of the world so that your son knows that race or religion does not matter. Plus, let him know that every woman has the right to choose her lifestyle – some strive to reach high career goals while other prefer to be stay-at-home moms.

2. Do not talk bad about his father

Whether you are married or divorced, never talk bad about your son’s father. Your son should realize that women respect men too. Try to avoid fighting when your child is home. If your (ex) husband does not respect you and you can do nothing about it, it does not mean you should hate him too. Remember, you are a role model to your son. Let it be. When he grows up, he will understand that his dad was not right.

3. Discuss the women’s rights

Maybe not each day, but once in a while, it is crucial that you and your son talk about the women’s right openly. Start with the history. He should know how women struggled for gender equality in the 20s, and if you have a teen son, how many women are suffering from rape and abuse.
These topics are not the most interesting ones, but discussing them regularly will help you raise a son who will respect women regardless of anything. But make sure your son does not feel guilty for being male. Let him know that some men suffer from gender equality as well.

4. Avoid pursuing his whims

I know you love your son and want to make him smile and happy every second, but pursuing his whims is a surefire way to raise a son who will be sure that women must do anything to satisfy men’s whims and needs. No way. Know when to say no, ignoring whining and tears.

5. Do not talk bad about other women

You may hate the way your female coworker dresses on the daily basis, or you may not like your husband’s mom, sister or aunt. It is your problem. Your son should not hear how you judge them. Otherwise, he may think that some women are good while others do not deserve to be respected. Keep your emotions under control, at least when your son is around.

6. Get him involved in household chores and tasks

Mothers rarely ask their sons to help them with cooking, cleaning, and other household chores, especially if they have daughters. You and your husband should set an example and show your son that a man and a woman are equal when it comes to household chores and tasks. If you have a daughter and a son, make sure you do not serve your son or your daughter. Get them both involved in household chores.

Raising a son who will respect women is not rocket science, but you should not ignore the problem too. First of all, your son is someone’s future husband, and you definitely want him to respect his wife as well as other women in the world
by
k.jagadeesh