7 Things You Should Learn from Your Failed Relationship

Things You Should Learn from Your Failed Relationship

When you experience a relationship break-up, you usually begin to analyze your past and lose the faith in true love. The feelings of sorrow make you waste your time looking for a reason why he broke up with you. You’d better try to find a lesson in the pain of your past relationship. You should know that relationships give you the chance to grow spiritually and get new and precious experiences. Those who think that they’ve wasted time with the wrong person are not right, because relationships also offer you opportunities to understand your past, your fears, your essence and what the meaning of the true love is. Love is not a simple thing. You need some time to learn how to love and value the relationship with your beloved. I hope this article will help you focus on your past and find the answers to all annoying questions that make you feel worried.

1. Everyone needs free space
Many people think that a true love means that they should spend 24 hours a day together with the person they love. Such schedule will make you lose your identity in a quite short period of time. Remember, everyone needs some free time and space to satisfy their personal needs and do things that make them feel alive. By all means, don’t let your identity die, because it will be difficult to bounce back.

2. The lust period is temporary
This wonderful period usually makes you fly on the wings of love. When you are extremely happy, you spend hours dressing to impress your partner and talking about love till the dawn. Unfortunately, the period of butterflies in the stomach ends fast and amorousness turns into a real and adequate love. Love is the period when you are ready to share both good and bad with the person you love. Love really grows when you have no fear to lose and when you absolutely accept all pros and cons of your significant other.



3. Other people don’t belong to you
Nowadays we live in a democratic world where people are free and have equal rights and responsibilities. Moreover, we are free to express ourselves and lead an independent life. No matter how long you’ve been together, you should understand that the person you love isn’t your property. People who really love each other are committed to this beautiful feeling and treat each other with respect. Your love is your muse but not your possession. You cannot control the behavior and every step of your partner, because it will only break trust in your relationship. The only adequate thing you can do is to trust him and try to create common rules of commitment both of you should stick to.

4. Complete yourself
I do agree that other people can improve you and fill your life with joy and wonderful colors, but you should realize that people will never complete you or live up to your expectations. There’s no need for validation from your partner. First of all, you should learn to cultivate self-love before you can share it with your beloved. Try to develop yourself until you find yourself confident and complete. It requires you to change your actions, thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

5. Don’t even try to change your partner
You can change many things in this world, but it’s almost impossible to change your partner’s outlook and habits. All you can do is to show the right path to your partner and if they have an internal desire to change, they’ll make a shift. A human psyche has the capacity to ignore things and ideas strongly imposed by others. This way your partner may achieve temporary improvements and then return to their casual habits again. If you cannot stand something in your partner, then you should shift your energy and react to the situation in a different way. It’s better to stay calm and respond everything in cold blood.

6. Get rid of your inner conflicts
Your attitude and behavior in your relationship can be the reflection of your fears and anxiety which reign in your sub consciousness. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you should start from healing your inner world from fears and conflicts. Plus, you need to do all possible things to boost your self-esteem. Begin to love yourself and you’ll be able to share your love with somebody else.



7. Learn how to let go gracefully
It seems that some relationships teach us how to honorably let go. After a considerable reflection on the opportunity to build a happy and healthy relationship, you may realize that this love doesn’t cost your time and energy to continue. Unhappy relationships teach you to struggle for happiness. Furthermore, you should use the opportunity to let go of the past in order to be able to find the true love of all your life and cultivate a long and loving relationship. Don’t become disheartened the next time you face a relationship break-up, because it may help you develop a new vision of the world and start a better relationship.

Relationships are an important part of your personal development. Both happy and unhappy relationships help you grow and become an all-rounded person. You should be strong enough to overcome the pain and other challenges, if you want to be happy. Have you ever had failed relationships? What lessons did you learn from them? Share your experiences.
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விலைமாது விடுத்த கோரிக்கை..!

ராமன் வேசமிட்டிருக்கும் பல ராட்சசனுக்கு  என்னை தெரியும்.

பெண் விடுதலைக்காக போராடும் பெரிய மனிதர்கள் கூடதன் விருந்தினர் பங்களா விலாசத்தை தந்ததுண்டு.

என்னிடம் கடன் சொல்லிப் போனகந்து வட்டிக்காரகளும் உண்டு.

சாதி சாதி என சாகும் எவரும் என்னிடம் சாதிப் பார்ப்பதில்லை.

திருந்தி வாழ நான் நினைத்தபோதும் என்னை தீண்டியவர்கள் யாரும் திரும்பவிட்டதில்லை.

பத்திரிக்கையாளர்களே! விபச்சாரிகள் கைது என்றுதானே விற்பனையாகிறது.விலங்கிடப்பட்ட ஆண்களின் விபரம் வெளியிடாது ஏன்...?
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காயிந்த வயிற்றுக்கு காட்டில் இரை தேடும் குருவியைப் போல் என்னை யாரும் பரிகசிக்கவில்லை. கட்டில் மேல் கிடக்கும் இன்னொரு கருவியைப் போலத் தான் என்னை கையாளுகிறார்கள்.

நான் இருட்டில் பிணமாக மாறினால்தான் பகலில் அது பணமாக மாறும். பின்தான் என் குடும்பத்தின் பசியாறும்.நிர்வாணமே என் நிரந்தர உடையானதால்தான் சேலை எதற்கென்று நினைத்ததுண்டு. சரி காயங்களை மறைப்பதற்கு கட்டுவோம் என்று கட்டிக்கொண்டு இருக்கிறேன்.

என் மேனியில் இருக்கும் தழும்புகளைப் பார்த்தால் வரிக்குதிரைகள் கூடவருத்தம் தெரிவிக்கும்.

எதையும் வாங்க வசதியில்லாத எனக்கு விற்பதற்காவது இந்த உடம்பு இருக்கிறதே! நாணையமற்றவர் நகங்கள்கீறி கீறி என்நரம்பு வெடிக்கிறதே!

வாய் திறக்க முடியாமல் நான் துடித்த இரவுகள் உண்டு எலும்புகள் உடையும் வரை என்னை கொடுமைப் படுத்திய கொள்கையாளர்களும் உண்டு.

ஆண்கள் வெளியில் சிந்தும் வேர்வையை என்னிடம் ரத்தமாய் எடுத்து கொள்கிறார்கள்.

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ஓடுகாலி _ஒழுக்கங்கெட்டவள் இதில் ஏதேனும் ஒரு பட்டம் அநேக பெண்களுக்கு அமைந்திருக்கும்.
இது இல்லாமல் பெண்கள் இல்லை.
எப்போதும் இழிவு சொல் ஆண்களுக்கு இல்லை.

முதுமை என்னை முத்தமிடுவதற்க்குள் என் மகளை மருத்துவராய் ஆக்கிவிட வேண்டும்.
என் மீது படிந்த தூசிகளை அவளை கொண்டு நீக்கி விட வேண்டும்.
இருப்பினும் இந்த சமூகம் இவள் மணிமேகலை என்பதை மறந்துவிட்டு மாதவியின் மகள் என்பதை மட்டுமே ஞாபகம் வைத்திருக்கும்.

இறுதியாக இரு கோரிக்கை.என்னை மென்று தின்ற ஆண்களே! மனைவிடமாவது கொஞ்சம் மென்மையாக இருங்கள். எங்களுக்கு இருப்பது உடம்பு தான் இரும்பல்ல.

என் வீதி வரை விரட்டிவரும் ஆண்களே! தயவு செய்து விட்டுவிடுங்கள். நான் விபச்சாரி என்பது என் வீட்டுக்கு தெரியாது
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APRIL 3, 2014

Jagadeesh Krishnan : 7 Smart Ways to Recover from Betrayal

Jagadeesh Krishnan : 7 Smart Ways to Recover from Betrayal: 7 Smart Ways to Recover from Betrayal Smart Ways to Recover from ...

7 Smart Ways to Recover from Betrayal

7 Smart Ways to Recover from Betrayal
Smart Ways to Recover from Betrayal

I believe that healing after betrayal is possible. The main point is to be patient enough to deal with anger and grief after the betrayal. This break of trust seems to be the most disgusting thing in the world. It has broken a great number of friendships and marriages. Moreover, this process can seriously affect your self-esteem and make you experience a depression, especially if it happens suddenly.

You may discover a betrayal over time. First of all, you begin to notice a series of lies and then suspect your partner of betrayal, because the respect and trust are already broken. It seems to be impossible to forgive the person who has destroyed your love and your world. However, you shouldn’t lose your heart since this negative experience may help you grow emotionally and get rid of bad and insincere people.

While recovering from betrayal isn’t an easy thing, I hope these tips will help you overcome this life difficulty.

1. Tell about your pain
One of the most important steps in dealing with betrayal recovery is to tell the offender about your pain and feelings. Explain to them that they have hurt you and you are going through tough times at the moment. By all means, try to keep yourself well in hand and avoid scandals, because it may worsen your emotional state. You will let them know that you cannot trust them again. They should become aware of the actions they have done and feel the responsibility for this difficult situation.

2. Accept your emotions
Unfortunately, different kinds of betrayal can force you to experience a wide range of negative emotions. These are confusion, anger, sadness and others. You shouldn’t reject these emotions. It’s desirable to accept things you are suffering from, no matter how difficult it can be. Don’t conceal your grief, because it’s normal to face negative emotions. If you know what you feel, you have more chances to rethink and let your problems go away.

3. Take it easy
Don’t cry and don’t avoid communication with others. It’s desirable to give yourself some period of time to grieve before pushing yourself to move on. It will clear your mind and help you let your emotions go away. It is easier to take right decisions, when you are calm and reasonable. Moreover, you need time to comprehend the conflict and realize what to do next.

4. Boost your self-confidence
Self-confidence is one of the most significant things that help you hold out against the betrayal. Build a good self-esteem reminding yourself that you’re a wonderful person. Focus on your positive qualities and achievements and don’t let such challenge as betrayal spoil your beautiful life. Self-confident people are well resistant to problems, because they believe in themselves and their abilities. Consequently they have more opportunities to overcome difficulties since they don’t depend on others. Plus, self-confidence will help you kill negative thoughts.

5. Do things you enjoy
You should try to replace your grief with positive emotions. Create a positive atmosphere around yourself in order to get rid of the constant reminders of negativity. Watch a funny comedy or take a trip with your best friends. It will draw you away from annoying negative thoughts and inspire you to do things that fill your life with new adventures and happiness. It’s better to develop an optimistic vision of the world. Those people who do things they enjoy can easily turn their attention to new and positive moments.

6. Take your anger under control
Anger is a slow killer of both your physical and mental well-being. This feeling can also steal your happiness and develop negative thinking. Gautama Budha once said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” You should try to control your anger and suppress the desire to take revenge on the person that hurt you. The control of your anger will help you avoid doing stupid actions you might regret later. Be careful with anger, because it’s a dangerous weapon that can break hearts.

7. Practice forgiveness
Forgiveness is an important part of emotional growth. This difficult step will help you move on and clear your mind of hatred and anger. Mahatma Gandhi once said a wise thing, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. “I realize that it’s difficult to forgive when your heart hurts, but you should try to change your life for better. Don’t let the past poison your present moment.

Only a strong desire to recover from betrayal will help you start a new life, because nothing is impossible. Follow these tips and hopefully they will help you forget about the pain of betrayal in a quite short period of time. Have you ever dealt with a betrayal? How did you recover from it? Share your thoughts, please.
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APRIL 3, 2014

10 Habits That Can Steal Your Happiness

People from all over the world have one common desire. They are looking for happiness. There is no definite concept of happiness that’s why all people keep moving in different directions to reach their happiness. Each person has an individual vision and perception of happiness. I think all people have habits which can both help them become happy or lose their dream. Unfortunately, there are many habits that steal your happiness and make you feel miserable. These harmful behaviors can easily affect your emotional well-being, if you do nothing to correct them. Read on and be aware of the things that steal your joy each day.

1. Waiting for a suitable moment

Only you can change your life. Don’t wait for the perfect moment, make every moment perfect instead. Many people who keep waiting for the perfect opportunity and for the best moment to do what they have to do, usually end up doing nothing. Life is short, so you should do your best to seize the opportunity to make your life and the life of your dearest and nearest people better.

2. Working without interest

Working for nothing more than a paycheck is a kind of imprisonment. Unfortunately, nowadays many people face economic problems and go to work they hate. You shouldn’t give up on your dreams and work without passion and interest. This is your life and it’s up to you to find a job that defines you. Confucius once said a wonderful thing, “Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.”

3. Focusing on the success of others

There are so many happy people around. You often find them smiling, joking and succeeding in everything. Consequently, you begin to focus on other people’s lives and compare your success to their goals. Don’t let these destructive thoughts flag your spirits. Just define success for yourself and move on towards your dream. You are the only master of your own fate. Incredible change happens when you decide what kind of life you want to live and admit how you can bring it to life.

4. Living with worries and fears

Fears and worries are false emotions that can deprive you of many opportunities to become better or do something you’ve never done before. Don’t let all those fears and negativity take over your life. They usually make you feel despondent when you realize that you have lost a great number of joys and moments of happiness. You’d better be strong enough to face all your fears and allow them to become opportunities to expand your life. Don’t worry, be happy!

5. Harboring hate in your soul

As Maya Angelou said, “Hate, it has caused a lot of problems in the world, but has not solved one yet.” This bad habit can really affect your mental well-being, if you give way to negative emotions. Hate is one of the most powerful emotions that can ruin both your happiness and life. You should recognize hatred and let it go. It’s more pleasant to enjoy things you have and don’t hold on different negative thoughts. To my mind, the only weapon that can make hatred go away is love. Love breeds life and light, but hate breeds destruction and chaos.

6. Trying to change everything all at once

It is almost impossible to change everything all at once. I think it’s better to change something fundamental. It is scientifically proved that the process of considerable changes is extremely stressful for a human’s mind. Try to change everything gradually. If you want to make a difference in the world, start changing the world around you. When you cope with your own mind and moods, you will feel much happier.

7. Exaggerating difficulties

A bad day is not a cause to make an elephant out of a fly. You should realize and treat difficulties as new opportunities, but not as a problem of all your life. Life is constantly testing people for their level of commitment and life’s best rewards are reserved for those who show courage and commitment to various difficulties. Mao Zedong once said an encouraging phrase, “In time of difficulties, we must not lose sight of our achievements.” You should believe in yourself and realize that you always have a choice and a way out.

8. Fleeting contentment

There are so many beautiful and tempting things around. It is important to know what contentment is and learn to differentiate its types. There are two types of contentment in life. People can seek either fleeting contentment or enduring contentment. The fleeting type of contentment is a kind of a material comfort, while enduring type means the gradual growth of your mind and soul. The enduring type of contentment gives you happiness and confidence, when fleeting contentment awards you with short-term kinds of pleasure. It requires maturity and wisdom to decipher one from another.

9. Amplifying the importance of physical attractiveness

Don’t judge things and people by their appearances and physical attractiveness. You shouldn’t choose everything based only on color and shape, because appearances are deceptive. Surely, physical attractiveness is very important, but you should also take inner qualities into consideration, especially when it comes to relationships between people.

10. Holding on those who make you suffer

Sometimes it is necessary to avoid negative people who hurt you. If they are a constant source of your pain and negative emotions, you should accept that someone you love and respect doesn’t treat you friendly. Don’t waste your valuable time to impress or prove something to these people. If you want to live a happier life, let all toxic people go. Don’t be afraid of losing someone who doesn’t feel lucky to have you. As Robert Tew once said, “Don’t let negative and toxic people rent place in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out.”

Happiness is already in your hand, but you should open your eyes to see and accept it. Try to get rid of bad habits that can dim and steal your happiness, and you will feel better and happier.

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