Wednesday, 3 December 2014

jagadeesh krishnan psychologist and international author

Once upon a time there was a very well known teacher in the city of Takkasila, in northern India. He taught religion, as well as all other subjects. His knowledge was enormous and his teaching ability made him world famous. 

At that time a son was born to a rich family in Benares. The family kept a holy fire burning constantly from that day on. When the son turned 16, they gave him a choice. They said, "This holy fire has been burning since your birth. If you wish to be reborn in a high heaven world, take it into the forest and worship the fire god.

"However, if you wish to live the home life of a family man, you must learn how to manage the wealth of our family in the affairs of the world. If that is the life you choose, go and study under the world famous teacher of Takkasila."

The young man said, "I don't want to be a holy man. I would much rather be a family man. Then I will be happy for the rest of my life." So his parents sent him to the world famous teacher. They gave him a thousand gold coins to pay for his lessons.

After several years the man graduated with honours and returned home to Benares.

Meanwhile, his parents had come to wish more and more that he would become a holy man in the forest. This was just as they had wished on the day he was born. His mother wanted the best life possible for her son. She thought, "My son wants to marry and raise a family. He does not realise how dangerous a wicked woman can be to a man. I must find a way to get his teacher to teach him this."

So the wise woman asked her son, "Did you earn only the Ordinary Degree without also obtaining the higher Unhappiness Degree?" Her son replied, "I have earned only the Ordinary Degree."

His mother said, "How can you be called educated in the ways of the world if you have learned nothing about unhappiness? Return to the great teacher and ask for the Unhappiness Degree." The son dutifully followed his good mother's advice and returned to Takkasila.

It just so happened that the world famous teacher had a mother who was 120 years old. She was blind and very weak. The teacher bathed and fed and cared for her with his own hands. Since it took more and more of his time, he was forced to give up teaching. He and his mother moved into a forest hut, where he looked after her, night and day.

When the young student arrived from Benares he found that his old teacher was no longer at the college. Hearing that he had retired to the forest, he went and found him there.

After greeting each other, the teacher asked him, "Why have you come back so soon?" He replied, "Honourable professor, you did not give me the Unhappiness Degree." "Who told you about that degree?" asked the teacher. "My mother, sir," he said.

The teacher thought, "I've never heard of such a degree! No doubt his wise mother wanted me to teach him how wicked some women can be. For they bring great unhappiness to men."

He said, "All right, I will teach you so you can earn this high degree. The course is a work-study program. Your lessons will consist of taking care of my old mother for me. You will bathe, feed and care for her tenderly with your own hands.

"While you are washing and massaging her body, you must say, 'Dear lady, even in your old age your skin remains fair and beautiful.' You must constantly exaggerate her beauty in this way, saying, 'When you were young, you must have been even more beautiful!' And if she says anything to you, you must tell me without shame, whatever it is, hiding nothing.

"If you do these things correctly, you will earn the Unhappiness Degree. Then your mother will be proud of you."

The student agreed and began tending to the 120-year-old lady. He bathed and fed her with his own hands. He massaged her arms, legs, back and head. While doing this he said, "Madam, it is marvellous indeed! Even in such great old age, your arms and legs are so very beautiful! I can guess how beautiful you were in your youth!" In this way he exaggerated her beauty again and again, for many days.

Gradually, desire began to arise in the old lady's mind. Even though she knew she was blind and her body was rotten from old age, she thought, "No doubt this young man would like to live with me like a husband." So she asked him, "Do you want to be with me, just like a husband and wife?"

The man replied, "Oh yes of course, madam. I want to very much. But how can I? Your son is my teacher and he is very respectable. It would cause such a scandal! I will not dishonour my teacher."

Then the teacher's mother said, "Well in that case, if you really want to be with me, then kill my son!"

The student said, "How can I kill him when I have been studying with him for so long? How can I kill him just because of this desire for you?" Then she said, "If you will stay with me and not desert me, I will kill him myself!"

As he had agreed, the student went to the world famous teacher and told him all that had taken place. Amazingly, the teacher did not seem surprised. He said, "You have done well to tell me this, my pupil. I appreciate your good work."
Then he examined his mother's horoscope and discovered that this was to be the day of her death. He said, "I will arrange a test for her."

The teacher carved a statue from the softwood of a tree limb. He made it look exactly like himself, life-size. He laid it in his own bed and pulled the sheet up over it. He attached a long string to it and gave it to his pupil. He told him, "Now take this string and axe to my mother. Tell her it is time to do the killing."

Obediently the student returned to the blind old lady. He said, "Madam, my master is sleeping in his bed. If you follow this string it will lead you to him. Then kill him with this axe, if you really can do such a thing!"

She replied, "If you do not abandon me, I will do it." He said, "Why should I abandon you?"

Then she took the axe in her hands. She trembled as she stood up. Slowly she followed the string to her son's bed. She felt the statue and thought she recognised her son. She pulled down the sheet from the head and raised the axe. Thinking to kill him with one blow she struck the neck as hard as she could with the axe. But it made a thumping sound, so she knew it had struck wood.

The teacher asked, "What are you doing, my mother?" Suddenly she realised she had been deceived and discovered. The shock was so overwhelming that she dropped dead on the spot! This time the horoscope had been correct.
The world famous teacher respectfully burned his mother's body and offered flowers on her ashes.

Then he said to his pupil, "My son, there really is no such thing as the 'Unhappiness Degree'. Wicked women cause unhappiness. You are fortunate to have such a good and wise mother. By sending you here to earn the Unhappiness Degree, she wanted you to learn how evil some women can be.
"You have seen with your own eyes how my mother was filled with craving and vanity. She has taught you this lesson. Now return to your wise mother, who cares so much for your well-being."

When he arrived home his mother asked, "My dear son, have you finally earned the high degree in the subject of Unhappiness?" He replied, "Yes mother."
Then she said, "I ask you again, my son, do you wish to leave the worldly life and go into the forest to worship the fire god? Or do you wish to marry and lead the family life?"

Her son replied, "I do not wish to lead the family life. I have seen with my own eyes how evil some women can be. There is no limit to their craving and vanity. Therefore I want nothing to do with family life. I will seek peace as a forest monk."

He respectfully took leave of his parents. After many years of peaceful meditation in the forest, he eventually died and was reborn in a high heaven world.

The moral is: Wickedness between women and men brings unhappiness to both.




















by
k.jagadeesh

Wednesday, 19 November 2014

10 Reasons to Celebrate New Year at Home

10 Reasons to Celebrate New Year at Home

Reasons to Celebrate New Year at Home
When you think of New Year celebrations, chances are parties, bars and nightclubs spring to your mind since that’s how people often observe the holiday. Others, however, opt to stay home and have their own New Year celebration. If you’re the type who wants to avoid the crowds and celebrate New Year your way, stay home and spare yourself the hassle that accompanies a New Year in public.

1. Save money

Save money
If you’ve ever spent New Year’s Eve on the town, you’ve probably spent considerable bucks for the pleasure. A New Year out is expensive and for a lot of people, it’s hard to come up with the cash after they’ve broken the bank paying for holiday gifts and meals. Stay home and celebrate New Year on a budget.

2. Avoid bad weather

Avoid Bad Weather
While the weather outside may be frightful, the temperature inside is simply delightful. If bundling up to stay warm isn’t your first choice, you can avoid doing so by celebrating New Year at home. You can tear your attention away from the weather forecast and put it on a more pleasurable subject for the evening

3. Stay off the roads

Stay off the roads
As January takes hold, the roads become more and more treacherous. Ice, snow and rain make streets slick and contribute to traffic accidents that cost lives and money. If you’d rather not risk your car and your safety, stay home for the New Year and leave the roads open for those who choose to navigate them.

4. Avoid drunks

Avoid drunks
When the New Year rolls around, alcohol often flows freely. Even folks who rarely drink may choose to imbibe and those who do often drink regularly may overindulge. Unless you happen to enjoy the company of drunks, do yourself a favor and stay at home to avoid the rowdy drinking culture.

5. Keep it intimate

Keep It Intimate
You’ll be hard pressed to find anywhere away from home that isn’t crowded on New Year’s Eve. If you’d much rather spend quiet time with your significant other or close friends and family, stay at home home. Prepare a delicious dinner, enjoy quiet conversation and luxuriate in the company of your loved ones.

6. Enjoy the quiet

Enjoy the Quiet
Let’s face it, the New Year is one of loudest holidays on record. Between the din of party people and the countdown to midnight, your hearing can take a real beating. Not to mention, it’s incredibly frustrating when you have to yell to make yourself heard amidst the crowd.

7. Do it your way

Do it your way
When you go out during the New Year, you have to follow the plans your host or hostess have made. When you stay at home home, however, you can do it up your way. Serve your favorite foods, make drinks to your taste and plan the entertainment that you and yours enjoy the most.

8. Choose your crowd

Choose your crowd
When you have to mix with strangers on New Year’s Eve, you never know who you might come into contact with. They might be your new best friends or they may be someone with whom you have nothing in common. When you stay at home home, you control the guest list and ensure that the people you spend the evening with are people you like.

9. Eat delicious food

Eat Delicious Food
Even if you go to a fine dining restaurant to celebrate the New Year, there’s always a chance the experience may not be up to your standards. Cold entrees, poor service or a long wait at a restaurant may ruin your evening. At home, you are in charge of food and can prepare it exactly to your taste.

10. Eschew alcohol

Eschew alcohol
Although drinking alcohol is a part of most New Year celebrations, it doesn’t have to be a part of yours if you don’t want it to be. Many people choose to skip the drinks because of dietary restrictions, interactions with medications or due to their participation in recovery programs. At your house, you decide whether there’s drinking or not.

If you’re apprehensive about spending a night on the town on New Year’s Eve, make the bold choice to simply stay at home. Make plans that are meaningful to you and welcome the new year in the way you prefer. Who knows, maybe this New Year’s celebration will be the best and you will celebrate next year at home, too. Do you think it’s great to celebrate New Year at home?
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Thursday, 6 November 2014

8 Ways to Get Your Skin Ready for Winter

8 Ways to Get Your Skin Ready for Winter

8 Ways to Get Your Skin Ready for Winter
Cold temperatures, low humidity and extreme weather conditions can damage your skin. During the cold winter months you may notice that your skin is dull, itchy and dehydrated. Binge eating and binge drinking during a holiday season can only worsen the situation. Luckily, you can make your beauty routine less problematic in winter by following some easy and handy tips and tricks.

1. Stock up on creams

In winter your skin requires more care than in summer. During a cold season you should stock up on creams and avoid using lotions. Creams usually have heavier formulas and they may feel a bit more uncomfortable on your skin. But they are the best protectors against severe weather conditions. Winter creams contain more fatty ingredients, which prevent dehydration and roughness. Apply creams before bed and not less than 30 minutes before going outdoors. You should also skip light makeup formulas and consider heavier foundations, cream shadows and lipsticks.

2. Use a sunscreen daily

Many women mistakenly believe that their skin doesn’t need sunscreens in winter. In fact, sun is rather harmful to your skin all year round, and in winter the harmful effect is just reinforced by cold temperatures and wind. Unless you apply a sunscreen, you can get a burn even in winter. If your everyday cream doesn’t contain SPF, consider buying sunscreens with SPF 15 and higher. Sunscreens are essential if you spend a lot of time outdoors working or exercising. Make sure you apply your sunscreen at least half an hour before you go outdoors.

3. Don’t forget about your gloves

Gloves are often a very neglected and underrated item, thus most people decide to put on gloves only when the temperatures turn extremely cold. However, you should wear gloves during fall and winter seasons to protect your skin against redness, frostbite and roughness. The skin on your hands is much more sensitive and vulnerable during the cold winter months, so they need more moisturizing and nourishing than ever. For a better effect you can apply your hand cream before wearing gloves.

4. Take short showers

A long hot shower is really what I love and need in winter, but the truth is that hot showers are very harmful to the skin as well as soaking in a hot tub. Hot water promotes excess dryness and dehydration; it removes the upper protective layer of your skin and make it more vulnerable to irritants. Even if you have oily skin you’d better avoid using soaps. Instead, opt for nourishing shower gels and apply body creams and moisturizers right after you take a shower. Consider reducing your shower time and opt for lukewarm water while taking a bath.

5. Moisturize

Don’t wait until your hands and face become dry and scaly! You should start using moisturizers when the thermometer shows sub-zero temperatures. Pay special attention to your hands. Applying a hand moisturizer twice a day may be insufficient. Ideally, you should use hand creams 5 or 6 times a day, depending on your skin type. While you have a tube of a moisturizer in your bath, it’s also necessary that you carry a hand cream in your handbag and use it each time you wash your hands.

6. Reconsider your diet

You know that your skin reflects your health, thus it’s directly connected with your diet and nutrition. Have you ever noticed that your skin becomes sallow and flaky in winter? Perhaps, you need to reconsider your everyday diet and alter your eating habits. During a cold season your body requires more fats, that’s why you should skip a low-calorie diet and increase your intake of veggies, fish, dairy products and healthy fats. Sticking to a healthy diet will make your skin radiant and healthy and help you lose some pounds. Increase the consumption of citrus fruits, greens and seafood as well. Not only will it provide a protection against dryness and peeling, it will also slow down aging processes and reduce small wrinkles.

7. Stay hydrated

I rarely meet people who drink the recommended amount of water daily; even more rarely people drink enough in winter. You may not feel thirsty during a cold season, but in fact your hydration needs don’t depend on the season. Drinking a lot of water is highly beneficial to your health and beauty. It helps to get rid of toxins, increases elasticity and promotes rejuvenation. While you should drink at least 8 glasses of water per day, try to cut down on caffeine, carbonated water and black tea.

8. Don’t overlook scrubs

All your skin care products will appear useless if you don’t exfoliate your skin regularly especially during the fall months, since it helps to get your skin ready for winter. Dermatologists and beauty professionals say that you should exfoliate your skin 3 times a week during winter months. Not only will it help to remove dead cells, dirt and residues of cosmetics, it will also improve the complexion and texture of your skin. Using exfoliants three times a week is a sure way to a healthy and radiant skin. Winter outfit doesn’t display your body and heels, but they also need extra exfoliation in winter. Consider doing regular pedicure to avert cracked, unhealthy dry heels.
Getting ready your skin for winter can be a tough task. Moreover, maintaining a beauty routine in winter can be challenging, but it’s not so hard if you know some secrets. Indeed, winter can cause many problems to your skin. However, you can easily reduce the harmful effect and get your skin ready for winter by following the above-mentioned tips. Incorporate them into your beauty routine today and enjoy your healthy radiant skin even during winter months.
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