How To Deal With Tension
Tension has nothing to do with anything outside you - it is to do with what his happening within you - you will always find an external excuse to rationalize your tension simply because it looks so weird to be tense without any reason- but tension is not outside you -it is your incorrect lifestyle. Each situation is an opportunity to be meditative. Osho has introduced catharsis before meditation. It really helps you get rid of the stress and become more watchful and calm.
Each situation can become an opportunity to be aware :
What happens to you when you feel insulted? Meditate over it; this is changing the whole gestalt. When somebody insults you, you concentrate on the person -- "Why is he insulting me? Who does he think he is? How can I take revenge?" If he is very powerful you surrender. If he is not very powerful and you see that he is weak, you pounce on him. But you forget yourself completely in all this; the other becomes the focus. This is missing an opportunity for meditation. When somebody insults you, look what is happening inside.
Awareness is right, unawareness is wrong :
Whatsoever happens -- good, bad, success, failure -- immediately become aware of what is happening. Don't miss a single moment. Be present to it, and you will be surprised, errors will start disappearing from your life. And then whatsoever you do will be right.
People ask me what is right and what is wrong, and my answer is: If something arises out of awareness, it is right. If something arises out of unawareness, it is wrong. Right and wrong is not a question of what you do, but of how you do it.
Talk to the Wall :
If you are bursting with stress just sit in your room and talk alone. There is no need for somebody else to listen to you. You can talk to the wall and it will be more human, because you will not be creating any suffering for anybody.
But don't repress it. Repressed, it will become a burden on you. In the beginning you will feel it a little crazy, but the more you do it, the more you will see the beauty of it. It is less violent. It does not waste somebody else's time, and you are relieved. After a good talk with the wall you will feel very, very relaxed. The world would be better and more silent if people started talking to the walls.
Absorb the Attack :
The Judo-teacher teaches his pupils not to attack but to await an attack. And when the attack comes remember only one thing – to absorb the attack! If someone abuses you and you take in his abuse, the aggressor becomes weak. Try this out! He who drinks in the abuse – not suppresses it – as if it is a loving gift; he who absorbs it within his whole being, becomes a pool. And this pool is filled with the energy that flows out the one who abuses, and he becomes that much stronger.
Also, when the aggressor finds that no abuse is coming forth from the other, he becomes very uneasy.
You can try this technique in the board meetings.
by
k.jagadeesh
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