was a strenuous job for me, and I caught so many fish. I don't know where these fish disappear to in the day."
The other man said, "Stop all this nonsense, you don't know what I have
dreamt. I found in my dream, on one side of me, Sophia Loren,
absolutely nude. And I said, `My God, have I reached heaven?' And on the
other side was another beautiful woman. It was impossible to judge who
was more beautiful."
The other friend became very angry and he said,
"You idiot! You pretend to be my best friend. Why didn't you call me?"
He said, "I did call, but your wife said you had gone fishing."
Nobody is where you think he is. Nobody is at home. While making love
make it a meditative process. Your whole presence has to be there,
showering on the woman you love. The woman has to be there, showering
all her beauty and grace on her lover. Then you will not be a victim,
otherwise you are a victim.
Love is not accepted by your so-called,
utterly idiotic religions to be a natural and playful experience. They
condemn it. They have made it a condition: unless you leave your woman
you will never attain to truth. And the conditioning has been going on
for so long that it has almost become a truth, although it is an
absolute lie.
You are a victim of traditions and you are certainly
dependent. When I read your question further you will see how you are
dependent -- dependent on a girlfriend who tells you that you are
boring, not very juicy and a victim.
Your dependence shows further:
"Then I felt very guilty and depressed and utterly unworthy." If your
girlfriend, by saying such simple truths, can make you very guilty and
depressed and utterly unworthy, she certainly seems to be your master.
"I began to feel inside me a big No." And this is where your girlfriend
has been kind, not to say to you, "You are a little bit of an idiot
too."
You are saying, "I began to feel inside me a big No towards
existence." Now what has existence done? Do you think your girlfriend is
existence? "... towards life." Do you think your girlfriend is life?
"... towards love." And finally, "... towards you." Why involve me? I
have not been giving all these ideas to your girlfriend; I don't know
her. She is not getting these lessons from me about what to tell you.
This shows your utter idiocy. Are you here for me or for your
girlfriend? I go on saying things every day and nothing changes in you.
And your girlfriend just said that you are a little boring and you don't
doubt her. Perhaps you have come here following your girlfriend. And in
what way can you say No to existence, to life, to love and to me? That
really is hilarious. I had not said anything and you have included me --
on what grounds?
Rather than listening to your girlfriend who was
saying sincerely that you are boring, just a little, you should have
asked her, "In what way can I become a little more interesting? Do you
have any suggestions? If I am not juicy then tell me how I can become
juicy." That would have been an intelligent step. But instead of asking
the girl you started having "a big no: towards existence, life, love,
you." Sometimes I think that... I don't even know you personally, nor
your girlfriend. In what way am I involved in it?
But I can
understand the reason. Perhaps you may not be able to explain it, but I
can see the underlying reason for your big No. You believe in your
girlfriend too much -- naturally you could not ask her. That shows your
dependence. You must be afraid to make much fuss about these things with
the girl, because girlfriends are not your permanent wives, no law
prevents them from moving with someone who is more juicy. And everybody
in the beginning is juicy, but just a few days together and the whole
juice dries out. You start looking around for some other girl, for some
other man, because they are all looking juicy.
You will repeat the
same thing life after life; you have done it already, without
understanding the foundation. Living with one man more than a week the
problem arises of how to get rid of him. He is also thinking about how
to get rid of you. But it does not look right to either of you, so you
start creating trouble so that somehow some other idiot may become
interested in your girlfriend, because you both go on seeing that other
girls are more juicy, other men are more juicy.
It is an old story
that the green grass on the other side of the fence of your bungalow
looks greener than your own grass. Distance creates that phenomenon.
Any woman may look to you juicier than your wife -- she is just a pain
in the neck. But what you don't know is that all these women are
following the same philosophy. For one or two days they are so groovy,
and once they have caught hold of you the real story starts -- they
start becoming a pain in the neck. And the same is true about men.
Meeting a girl on the sea beach, in the garden, by the side of a river,
he pretends to be Alexander the Great, walks like a lion, and within two
days the same fellow is reduced to a rat.
Nobody talks about the
reality of why this is happening, why so many people are unnecessarily
made miserable. This society will never be happy if we don't allow
people to move and not get stuck in marriages, not get stuck in their
own promises. Out of freedom meet with each other, and the moment you
feel that you have explored the whole topography of the woman and the
woman knows that she has experienced whatever is possible to experience
in the man, then it is time to say goodbye to each other in deep
friendliness. There is no need to hang around each other's neck.
A
world completely free from any contracts between man and woman will be
immensely lovely, beautiful, unboring, interesting. But we have created
institutions, and to live in an institution is not a very great
experience. Your marriage is an institution, although the newer
generation is moving a little more freely, before settling after the age
of thirty. I have been looking around the world to find a hippie who is
at least of the age thirty-five. I have not found any. Nearabout thirty
all hippies disappear, they become just square people whom they were
fighting against before.
Seeing the situation, that living in
institutions -- of marriage, community, society, Lions Club, Rotary Club
-- you cannot live joyously, you have experimented. This is the first
time in history that we have a younger generation. I don't mean that in
the past there were not young people, but there was no "younger
generation." A small child, seven years old, would start following the
father's business, would start going to the fields, would start taking
care of the cows; or if the father was a carpenter, would start helping
him. At the age of seven he had already joined the society.
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